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Sep 18

"It’s not hard not to get pregnant…"

"It’s not hard not to get pregnant…"

TRIGGER WARNING: rape, abuse, coercion

That’s true, provided the following are also true:

…if you went to a school that taught sex-education, AND that sex education was not abstinence-only.

…if your abusive boyfriend doesn’t rape you.

…if the condom doesn’t break.

…if you didn’t take an antibiotic that messed with your birth control pills.

…if you didn’t forget contraception because you were drunk or high.

…if you’re not a drug addict who sometimes has to fuck her drug dealer to score, and he refuses to use a condom.

…if your pimp doesn’t rape you.

…if you don’t have a mental illness that causes disassociation.

…if you don’t have a mental illness, the medication for which messes with hormonal contraception, so you get to choose between sanity and not being pregnant.

…if your partner doesn’t lie to you about having a vasectomy.

…if your partner doesn’t take off the condom when you’re turned the other way.

…if your father, step-father, uncle, brother, cousin, babysitter, or neighbor does not rape you.

…if you’ve had sufficient sex-education to understand where babies come from, what contraceptives are available, and where to get them.

…if you’re not one of the 1-3% of people the pill does not work for.

…if no one drugged you and had sex with you.

…if no one had sex with you while you were asleep or passed out.

…if you have knowledge about contraception, access to contraception and the money with which to purchase contraception.

…if you are brave enough to purchase contraception in a small town where everyone knows you and your extremely strict parents who WILL throw you out of the house.

…if no one has statutorily raped you.

…if you have access to internet and books describing birth control so that you can learn about the process.

…if your IUD doesn’t fall out.

…if your diaphragm doesn’t slip out of place.

…if you were able to walk/able to drive/able to get a ride/able to afford a cab/able to afford public transport to a pharmacy that sells Plan B within the recommended 72 hour window of time, AND you had the money to buy it, AND the pharmacist didn’t refuse to sell it to you based on their personal beliefs.

…if absolutely no pre-cum comes anywhere near you, either on a penis, hand, mouth, or sex-toy while you’re messing around with someone with no intent of penetrative sex.

…if your boss or manager or other authority figure doesn’t rape you or intimidate you or blackmail you for sex.

…if you live in an area of the country that has progressive enough beliefs that you weren’t brought up to think that sex was simply one way a wife “does her duty” to her husband.

And the list goes on. And on. And on.


Sep 24

Cosigned. Also, don’t touch my urethral opening! That shit hurts!

(via velved)


Jul 10

I feel like a giant radiating sun of positive energy. My thoughts on each particular subject, of course, seem brilliant to me.

The ages of my life are dictated by work, and by going outside, and going to the store, and any other time I interact with other people, specifically men, and have to be inside my body, being looked at and experienced and objectified in a specific and sexual way. The longer I can go between these moments, the happier I am.

But I then I need to go to the store for milk, or out for my morning run, and it starts all over.


Jun 17
angryglitter:

my new Tattoo :)
It says: “WE ARE ALL REAL LIFE SUPERHEROINES*”

<3

angryglitter:

my new Tattoo :)

It says: “WE ARE ALL REAL LIFE SUPERHEROINES*”

<3


Jun 15
hedwigthefeminist:

High in the mountains of southwest China live the members of the Mosuo Tribe, widely-thought to be the last matriarchal society in the world. With 40,000 residents residing in villages alongside the pristine Lugu Lake, the people of this “Kingdom of Women” have no words in their language for “husband” or “father”. Women make all major decisions, own all land and dwellings, and maintain sole custody of the children born into their society.Most importantly, the women of the Mosuo tribe practice a zuo hun, or “walking marriage,” which means that after they are initiated at the age of 13 women may take as many lovers as they wish throughout their lifetime. Any resulting children are raised by the women of the tribe and men are all referred to as “Uncles.” Paternity is never discussed or questioned.

&#8230;guys. Please research things for 5 seconds before you reblog them.
The full quote from the article quoted above:

Women here make most major decisions; they control household finances, have the rightful ownership of land and houses, and full rights to the children born to them – quite radical considering that many parts of China still practise arranged marriages – although political power tends to rest with the men (making the description &#8220;matrilineal&#8221; more accurate).

The rest of the article is about how their culture is being destroyed by gross sex tourists who come there expecting free sex from &#8220;easy&#8221; Mosuo women and how sex workers are being trafficked from Thailand and how this sleepy little Chinese mountain town now has casinos and hotels and shit all over it. Just cause of sexual tourism and sex trafficking and shitty shitty patriarchal assumptions.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/dec/19/china-mosuo-tribe-matriarchy

hedwigthefeminist:

High in the mountains of southwest China live the members of the Mosuo Tribe, widely-thought to be the last matriarchal society in the world. With 40,000 residents residing in villages alongside the pristine Lugu Lake, the people of this “Kingdom of Women” have no words in their language for “husband” or “father”. Women make all major decisions, own all land and dwellings, and maintain sole custody of the children born into their society.

Most importantly, the women of the Mosuo tribe practice a zuo hun, or “walking marriage,” which means that after they are initiated at the age of 13 women may take as many lovers as they wish throughout their lifetime. Any resulting children are raised by the women of the tribe and men are all referred to as “Uncles.” Paternity is never discussed or questioned.

…guys. Please research things for 5 seconds before you reblog them.

The full quote from the article quoted above:

Women here make most major decisions; they control household finances, have the rightful ownership of land and houses, and full rights to the children born to them – quite radical considering that many parts of China still practise arranged marriages – although political power tends to rest with the men (making the description “matrilineal” more accurate).

The rest of the article is about how their culture is being destroyed by gross sex tourists who come there expecting free sex from “easy” Mosuo women and how sex workers are being trafficked from Thailand and how this sleepy little Chinese mountain town now has casinos and hotels and shit all over it. Just cause of sexual tourism and sex trafficking and shitty shitty patriarchal assumptions.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/dec/19/china-mosuo-tribe-matriarchy

(via futureabortiondoctor)


Jun 9

The hypocrisy of these libfems

girlsandgifs:

…Is that they get very fucking hostile at radfems even mentioning the differences between trans women and born women, yet are usually quick to dismiss the idea that females can unite as a class, or even have commonalities. So they think females making connections with males in male domination is more vital to feminism than females coming together against it? The non logic for the sake of male feelings knows no bounds.

You know who I wanna have in my little feminist group? Actual fucking feminists and actual fucking allies. My philosophy is not body-centric. A philosophy that is going to save the world cannot, CANNOT, only be for certain people with certain body parts.

I don’t give a shit what your body looks like. I don’t give a shit which privileges you have benefited from.

I give a shit about your politics and your commitment to the cause.

I give a shit about waking up minds to the cause. I don’t care what fucking body that mind inhabits.

Cause otherwise your so-called “radical feminism” is a fucking echo chamber.

You’re not anti-patriarchy. You’re pro-vagina. You’re a fringe group.

I have a hot pink satin pillowcase on my bed that is 10X more radical than any radical feminist I’ve encountered.

Get in my ask and prove me wrong.


Jun 3

femmebychoice:

Dyed my pits PANK today.  <3<3<3

You win tumblr. This is awesome.


"If teen girls service teen boys in the back of the school bus because they want to be popular and want favors from those boys, that isn’t a blowjob problem. That is a patriarchy problem. If a woman and her partner lick anything on each others naked bodies they can get their tongues onto in a mutual enjoyment of their sexuality, that isn’t a problem at all."

- “Ms Kate”, commenter on the article Patriarchy Defeated by Fellatio; We Can All Go Home Now


Jun 2

Problems I have with “radical feminism”, part 1 of 100,000,000

  1. You’re excluding trans* women from your spaces because…why? Trans* women are women. Ask any trans* woman.
  2. A trans* woman can’t be a woman because she has benefited from male privilege at some point in her life? No, no, no, no, no. No no no no no no. No. Wrong. Being born into the wrong body, and then being forced to live as the wrong gender for many years by the well-meaning people around you, and then finally coming out as your correct gender, is not a sun-shine-fun-times-happy-rainbow-wish-story like you seem to think. Yes, you will benefit from male privilege, but that will be more than compensated for by the fact that the entire time you don’t really have cis privilege and you’re constantly terrified of the consequences of 1)not telling people your true gender to protect them or 2) not telling people your correct gender to protect yourself. Stuff that damaging often requires years and years of therapy to undo. How can you have sympathy for closeted lesbians, and not for closeted trans* women? The patriarchy shouldn’t be forcing ANYONE to live a life they do not wish to live, based on a descriptor as inaccurate and limiting as a gender binary.
  3. Does your ideology extend to trans* men and genderqueer women with biologically female parts? (See how creepy that is to say? Why are we giving a fuck about people’s genitals?) If they were born with vaginas, does that mean they get the benefit of your support? Is that what feminist solidarity means to you? We all have these genitals, so we’re in it together?
  4. Let’s talk about what it means to say “I need to know that your genitals look a certain way before you’re allowed to sit at my table.” How much vag and clit do I need to have, exactly, in order to be part of your brand of feminism? What if I get born without labia or clitoris but with a vagina? Or with a boyish frame and androgynous genitals? Or with a very large clitoris? What if I never get my period? Am I “female” enough?
  5. You don’t need to talk about vaginas to talk about sexism. You don’t need to have ovaries to be oppressed by the patriarchy. You don’t need to have identified as a woman for your entire life to understand that shit’s all fucked up.
  6. My most basic problem with the “radical feminists” is that feminism is not just a movement for women, it is a philosophy for all people. It is a philosophy which is pro-individual, anti-racism, anti-sexism, which is inclusive regardless of race, sex, class, language, culture, gender identity, or sexual orientation. You don’t think we should have trans* women in the movement because you don’t think we should have men in the movement. I respectfully disagree. Feminism is for everyone. The destruction of patriarchy is for everyone.
  7. You’re classifying trans* women as men, which is textbook erasure, which is exactly what the patriarchy has been doing to trans* folk for forever. So what seems radical to you about excluding a class that has been excluded for forever?
  8. Even if you think gender is bullshit, MANY OTHER PEOPLE DON’T. In fact, many other people feel that gender is a cornerstone of their entire being, a vital part of their personality, or simply an identity which is so obvious to them that it would be painful to pretend it didn’t exist. So quit policing other people’s self-identification.
  9. If, as you claim, gender is bullshit and we’d be better off without it, why are you so scared to let trans* folk into your spaces? Is it cause you assume that the people with penises will always rape the people without penises? Cause that is some super scary rape culture thinking right there.
  10. Seriously, why would you think feminism was a movement just for women? Didn’t we leave that type of exclusionary thinking in the 2nd wave? Aren’t we branching out in the effort of intersectionality? Aren’t we much stronger as a big-tent talking about alllllll the different issues patriarchy causes and how to smash it in a million different way than as a tiny collective of cis women talking about cis women issues? As a friend of mine put it, patriarchy fucks with everyone, even the ones it gives privilege to.
  11. Civil rights works best when oppressed populations work together and get allies from groups with privilege. All oppression is connected. That’s why white civil rights activists sat at the lunch counter. Patriarchal tyranny anywhere is a threat to feminist freedom everywhere.

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